How To Break Free From Fear to Design Your Life - in memory of Josh Neuman
Last week, as I was presenting to dozen of Women in a Leadership Conference, I asked this question:
CAN THE SUDDEN DEATH OF SOMEONE YOU NEVER MET BE THE CATALYST NEEDED TO GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE AND FACE YOUR FEARS?
The sudden death of Josh Neuman, someone I deeply admired and who I will always regret never asking to interview on The Life Experiment show, made me want to share with you a few thoughts about taking positive risks and facing our fears.
Josh’s passing got me thinking. Can we move forward if we take positive risks?
Even for me, someone whose purpose is to experiment with every aspect of my life so I can clean the path for you…..taking risks and facing my fears can sometimes be too much.
Taking positive risks can help us break free from the fear of being stuck in one spot but not every risk is a good risk. That’s where knowing yourself really kicks in!
If you wanna get ahead in life and design your life and career on your terms, then you're going to have to take some risks and get to know yourself really darn well. It's not gonna be easy, but it is worth it.
SO, HOW CAN WE TAKE RISKS IN OUR LIVES?
Well, it starts with identifying the risks that are worth taking. And these are usually the risks that can move us forward and help us achieve our goals. So, once you've identified these risks, it's important to have a plan for them.
So, what are some risks worth taking in your life? I'll give you an example from my own life. A few years ago, I decided to quit my corporate job to pursue my passion full-time. And it was a risk because I didn't know if I would be successful. But I had a plan. And that plan was to build my business up slowly but surely so that I could eventually quit my job and support myself with my business. And it worked!
Now, this isn't to say that risks are always worth taking. Sometimes they're not. But if you can identify the risks that will help you move forward in your life and career, then go for it. Because you won't regret it.
THE GOOD NEWS IS, YES -YOU'RE MORE READY THAN YOU THINK!
I believe we can redesign our lives to feel the way that we want. The first step of taking actions is always the scariest and it's important for us as self-designing beings just like you are with your own life journey ahead of time so take a deep breath because yes this will be worth every minute!
What if I told you that:
Self-Sabotage (being too hard on myself)
Negative Thoughts/Procrastination - Disruptive Behavioural pattern of negativism which manifests as procrastinating tasks at work even though one knows exactly how much time it takes away from getting things done efficiently
Fear Of Success--Not being confident enough about ourselves when pursuing ambitious goals can lead us into feeling intimidated leading towards becoming uninterested again.
Can all be worked on if we take daily positive risks?
I get it! Sometimes we avoid looking at ourselves and our values because we are fearful of succeeding, maybe because we have a little one at home to look after or we have a fragile relationship with a partner, or we know that our mental health might be compromised. So we actually don't push through our fears. It is really about creating a set of tools in your toolkit to achieve the changes you want, achieving your life and career journey while knowing that these challenges can be resolved.
What about overthinking?
If you are like me, I am the first on the line at the overthinking parade?
We live in a world where we can often be afraid to take risks and step out of their comfort zone. Overthinking is normal and it happens but it can't stop us! It’s the moment when we start ‘doing’ and stop ‘thinking’ what really gives us clarity about ourselves-and what direction will next move us forward.
In this episode, I share with you the very recent ‘failure’ that led me to put this blog and video together. In fact, the video is a recording from a talk I shared at a Women in Leadership Conference I was chairing last week and where I asked this question:
